It's Not Wrong to Love

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There is an unspoken stigma tied to women who are open about their sexuality and the amount of partners they’ve had in their lives. They’re usually categorized as sluts, “easy”, or unable to find love.


 The truth is the amount of lovers in your life should never define you. If your partner is interested in the amount of people you have been with then they are worried more about their “reputation” than the relationship (so leave while you still can).


Society wants “normal” people to find a partner, get married, and have a family.

However, the truth is that life isn’t like that (and if you think it is then you are living a lie)


Finding your person is difficult and in order to find them you might have to love people who might hurt you.That’s the greatness about life, it’s unpredictable. 


Personally, I rather not know what my future has in store for me and take my chances. I feel like we are meant to have different people come into our lives for a short time. It helps us become well rounded people. We are aware of what we love, what drives us crazy, what makes us fall in love, and what we don’t deserve.


...without this we wouldn’t know who is actually the right one. 


This doesn’t mean people who willingly choose to wait for the right person are “wrong” in their ways. There is a beauty in waiting and I admire that. I guess I’m just writing this to shed light on the fact that there isn’t just one way a woman should live her life. Both ways should be celebrated and negative ties shouldn’t be around either one.


So as I metaphorically take this shot for love and all my past loves. I encourage you all to fall in and out of love (if you want to). Don’t be afraid to ride the rollercoaster until you’re sick of it, or wait until you find the right person to go on the ride with you.



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